A couple weeks ago I was praying and speculating about whether to give up something for Lent. Being raised in a Baptist church, we didn't do Lent, but I have always liked the tradition. Coffee, books, sugar....those are the things that came to mind right away. I was keeping my heart open......Soon after that, events transpired that made it necessary for my best friend's mother to move in with us. Suddenly we had to figure out how to make a two bedroom house big enough for three.
My self-sacrificing friend is now sleeping in the Arizona room, which the cats had previously taken over. She gave up her room to her Mom. At first the cats gave the bed a wide berth, a bit apprehensive when they saw it being wheeled out to "their" room, but they are now thrilled at having another place to sleep.
She has a tough job. Her folks are not easy to care for. They are not positive people and never have been. They have taken much and given little. There is one consolation when all is said and done, she will know that there is not one thing more she could have done for them.
There are times, however, when this is not much consolation, especially when your own sanity is in question.
In spite of everything, she remains positive, gracious and a joy to be around. I don't know how she does it, but then again I do.....loads of Grace, and Prayer. Did I mention her Mom has Alzheimer's?
In the midst of insanity, and chaos, and stress, there was some humor yesterday.
The remote control was ringing
Lipstick seemed like a good idea on cheeks
She lost her pants, which were in plain sight on the dresser
She programmed the microwave for 1 hour and 55 minutes to heat coffee
And this was all within the first hour of the day. When she saw her Mom furiously scrubbing her face at the bathroom mirror she figured out what she did. And then they both had to laugh.....Grace. Life and death side by side. Things like Alzheimer's have a way of making death more visible and just when you think it is gone forever the old life comes back......that's what makes it tough.
And every time we give up something and make room for His grace we wear a bit of the sacrifice of Jesus.
"But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: "God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble." James 4:6
What a great post Lori. Sounds like you may have some challenging days ahead, but as you say, Grace is present. Hope all is well, keep us 'posted'.
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